Talk with the Teen
On a bright Saturday morning, Paige took her daughter Sydney to have breakfast at Original Pancake House and told her that they would have a mother-daughter day. Paige being a mother of a twelve year old figured it was about time she have "The Talk" with her daughter. She told Sydney at the breakfast table that after she wanted to go hand out at the park to have some bonding time. When they reached the park Mom told Sydney to have a seat on the bench that she needed to have "The Talk" with her. She expressed that she wanted to bring up this matter at a peaceful place and the park with the lake seemed like the best idea.
Paige approached the talk with now I just want to give you a better insight on things that you really need to know at your age. Of course Sydney rolled her eyes and said MOMMMM....and Mom did not back down. She went onto explanation of what sexual inter course is and the morality behind it. Mom went onto the explanation of sex in the bible. Then came the explanation of every STD and risk associated with contracting these STD's. Of course all moms come prepared, she had every STD bookmarked on her Iphone so that she could give Sydney a visual image that would stick out in her head of why she would not want to risk this. Paige went on to explain to her daughter that sex is a very beautiful thing but only between two people who are in love with each other. Mom went on to express she would advise against sex until marriage. Mom was prepared for the very first question "How old were you when you first had sex?" Once mom went through all the in's and out's about sex and Sydney listened they went to the mall for some shopping and Starbucks.
It is so very important to keep an open line of communication with your children. I feel if you keep an honest open relationship talking about sex will be nothing embarrassing just another topic of discussion.
Hello Beth,
ReplyDeleteI'm Blanca, I really enjoyed your blog because of the detail and description you gave. I also love the fact that you also point out the explanation on sex and The Bible . I learned about about this topic as an adult. I also agree with you that "The Talk" should not be an embarrassing topic but just another conversation.
Thank you,
Blanca
Elizabeth,
ReplyDeleteGreat job! I loved your post and the approach. I always say, "Honesty is the best policy". I do believe that parents should be open to discuss sex with their child. It's best to do it in a private, calm setting like described in your post. Parents should remain honest and calm when their child begin to ask questions about sex. It's always important to be very knowledgeable and have accurate information when having "The Talk". The mom in your post did an excellent job with the conversation, the setting, and most importantly the shopping and Starbucks.
-Keyane J.
I liked that you have really put some thought into this conversation. I think it is important to not only give the facts about sex but to also input the spark of morality into children (which for quite a few is seriously lacking nowadays). Also, it definitely important to show children the consequences of not having protected sex can lead to not only a tarnished reputation, but also sexually transmitted infections and/or pregnancy.
ReplyDeleteI agree that a parent must keep the lines of communication open with children. It is very important for a child to have great confidence in knowing that they can talk to you about anything. The park is a good place to have the talk because it relaxing and less pressure. My daughter's attitude was the same when we had "The Talk", but she later thanked me for enlightening her about Sex and the consequences of it.
ReplyDeleteHi Beth.
ReplyDeleteI don’t want to jump on the bandwagon but I do like the approach you took on this blog. It is very detailed. As I wrote my blog I first wrote that the conversation should take place in a secluded area within the home, but then as I went back and read it, I didn’t completely agree so I deleted it. I do think the atmosphere needs to feel safe. Communication is key in every relationship and especially between a mother and her daughter. However, I think sex is a touchy subject and embarrassing to talk about if facts are not correct. Thanks for the insight.
-Kristin :)
Beth,
ReplyDeleteI like your scenario of how the talk took place and the important things that need to be told and discussed with the pre-teen. While reading this, if I was the daughter, I wouldn't feel under pressure because its normal for parents to have the talk with their daughter. You also mention that she should wait to have sex until marriage which is stayed in the bible. Good timing and scenery!